Podcast 314: How Over-Explaining is Linked to Trauma + A Neurocycle to Help You Find the Root & Heal

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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk about how over-explaining and over-sharing can be trauma responses, and how they impact the way we function. I decided to speak about this topic because of the many responses I got to a social media post I recently put up: “Over-explaining is a common trauma response for those who were often made to feel at fault as a child. At one point, the desire to people-please provided safety. But, please know, what happened is not your fault, and it’s not your job to regulate other people’s emotional states.”

Read the show blog here: https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/oversharing-over-explaining


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3:15 Over-explaining & over-sharing as trauma responses

5:40 The difference between over-explaining & over-sharing

8:20 Why you need to get to the root of your trauma response

8:44 You are not your brain—you control your brain

15:25, 21:00 Signs that you are over-explaining or oversharing

18:00, 35:30, 39:00 How to manage an oversharing/over-explaining response using the Neurocycle

48:00 You cannot please everyone, but the one person you should always prioritize is yourself!


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