Trauma bonding, toxic emotional attachment, how to know when to stay and when to go + how to find healing & freedom

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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I answer another question from a listener on toxic relationships and trauma bonds. Trauma bonds are chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them within the confines of an exploitive relationship. Divorce, employee relations, child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, kidnapping, exploitation and religious abuse can all be areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: “they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power”.

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2:05 What a trauma bond is

4:20 Trauma bonding and exploitation

9:00, 33:40 Gaslighting and other relationship warning signs

11:02, 29:00 Why we can never “fix” someone else

14:00 Why boundaries are so important in a relationship

14:24 Sometimes ending a relationship may be the best thing for both people

19:00 How a trauma bond can impact your health

24:50 How to help someone who doesn’t want to change while putting up boundaries

35:15 Why trauma bonds are so confusing

36:45 How relationships change your mind, brain and bond

44:00 How to use mind management to heal trauma from toxic relationships

51:05 Tips to help heal a trauma bond


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