Loneliness
Attachment, a theory about how humans bond with their caretakers as infants and carry on that style of interacting into their adult relationships. Loneliness triggers a stress reaction in the body. The antidote to loneliness is social belonging. Sally recommends the book ‘Come As You Are’ by Emily Nagoski. Patty relates to all attachment styles. Sally reminds us that we can heal ourselves and feel whole when alone and develop secure and trusting relationships with others. It’s not about quantity of relationships, but quality. It takes time to get comfortable in a new place, and to find your sense of belonging in a new community, and social anxiety makes finding new connections much more difficult. Thank you for your input on Twitter and Instagram this week! A new voicemail from Grace in Seattle on coping with loneliness while carrying past traumas. Fear of abandonment is pervasive! How do we define loneliness vs aloneness? How people pleasing can fuel feelings of loneliness. Sally’s got jokes before we sign off this week as usual! Special thanks to Dwight for all the wonderfully dynamic sound effects on this episode. We need to keep that going for sure! Thanks for listening! If you’d like to record a question or a comment for a future episode, give us a ring on the Bananphone at 725-FEELING, that’s 725-333-5464, or you can use the voice memo app on your phone to record your question and email it to us at thefeelingsclubpodcast@gmail.com. Visit our website thefeelings.club, sign up for our newsletter and check out Sally’s Blog. Follow us on Instagram @feelingsclubpodcast and Twitter @feelingsclubpod.