With Kimberly Beam Holmes: The Four Science-Based Ways to 100% Know if You Should Rule Him in or Rule Him Out

Marni welcomes the CEO of Marriage Helper and Host of the podcast, It Starts with Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes to the Life Check Yourself studio. Kimberly has a Master's in Psychology and for over 10 years she has been researching the ways attraction affects people personally and the relationships they hold near and dear to their hearts.

Key takeaways from this episode:

How to dig deep into another person through curiosity
The Love Path method
Be compassionate before you rule a guy out
How to reignite the attraction of a spouse or significant other

The Phases of Falling and Staying in Love [2:43]

Most people don’t know that there is a process to falling in love. They often think it is just chemistry or a pre-destined soulmate but in reality, any two people who follow Kimberly's process will fall in love. On the flip side of that, if a couple steps away from the process they could start falling out of love.

At Marriage Helper, Kimberly’s team helps couples fall back in love. The Love Path method is researched-based and time-tested. There are four steps in the Love Path:

P.I.E.S. Attraction
Acceptance
Attachment
Aspiration

The more people focus on body appearance the more their self-worth decreases.

Trust is paramount in a relationship. We can’t break down our protective walls until we know that another person loves us for who we truly are. We all need to be accepted for our true selves.

Long-term relationships are made up of people who share visions, aspirations, and goals for their future together. When we start dating we tend to have shared goals but after time as we achieve our goals, many couples get bogged down in careers, kids, and chores.

Life can pull us apart if we are not intentional about keeping our relationship together.

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