lystn

My parents knew about my sexual abuse and they did nothing.  My parents were aware of my sexual abuse. They found journals that I had written as a child. They did nothing. We all pretended like they were unaware.  My mother questioned me one time. I was about 13.. I told her. She responded by telling me that she was sexually abused by my abuser's father. She did not offer any support. She made it about her. There was no action taken, no further conversation, and we continued to be around both of the abusers.  Interestingly, my parents allowed us to be around and even babysat, by her perpetrator... both before and after revealing her abuse to me. At the time, I didn't think much about it. I was told and learned that you just act as nothing happened. I watched my mum be best friends with her abuser. I learned that is what you do. So I grew up being friendly with mine.  When I had my own children I asked them to support me in reporting the abuse to keep my kids safe. My mother begged me not to do anything out of the fear of the family and community turn against her. Her social consequence was more important than her daughter and grandchildren's safety. My parents use my sexual abuse to control and intimidate me My father had chosen to have a secret conversation with my abuser as an alternative to a police report. They told him to no longer contact me or bully me. This gave me some power back. After beginning to put in boundaries and expectations for my parents and the way that they treated me, they got angry. The abuse became worse, the attempts to control me were out of control. They buddied back up to my abuser. They would cuddle him and shake his hand, and treat him wonderfully, in front of me. They threw my power away and made it very clear how much they hated me being an autonomous adult.  My parents chose to Keep up Practice Instead of protecting Me Most parents would do whatever it takes to protect their children from known sexual abusers. Not mine. My parent's image in the community and family was more important. Social Currency is the only currency that speaks to them and their social status was more important than taking me away from these people and supporting me to report them.  My parents happily have my own children around the known abusers. In my eyes, this point and this point alone, make my parents unsafe to my own children now. They are not able to provide my children with the basic requirements of safety.  My parents projected their failures onto me Eventually, I have gone no contact with my parents. I refused to accept their behavior any more. The only way they could reach me is through the legal system, claiming grandparents standing and defamation because I have been talking about my experience.  They have accused me of knowingly putting my child in known danger with a sexual predator. The person he is talking about was a 5 year old at my child's school who had a habit of tickling other children.  My child told me she was being tickled and she didn't like it because it was annoying and the child would sometimes move her hands near her vagina when she was tickling her. Even at 4, my child had great protective behaviors and language.  Although this is normal behavior for children, and the tickling child was not trying to assault my child, we took immediate action.  We spoke with the school who implemented a safe touching program to educate the children and help them to form protective and safe behaviors. We spoke with the parents to let them know what was happening and how we were talking and teaching Ayla to deal with it. My child and the tickling child do not hang out or go to the same school anymore.  VERY DIFFERENT --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/truthcampaign/message