Thresholds in Life

There are certain times in your life when you go through major changes and begin to see the world in a different way. Today Matt and Garrett talk about these “threshold” moments and how to use them as an opportunity to go in a new direction. Garrett shares his own personal example of changing the trajectory of his life’s journey before starting a family, and reflects on the value of journaling or writing a letter to yourself to make the most of this process. 

These big turning points can feel scary or daunting, but our hosts describe how you can reframe them as new and exciting adventures, and most importantly, a chance to create magic and manufacture your own luck. When you find yourself at a crossroads in life, use this time to think about where you want to be and plan a roadmap for how you want to get there.

Matt and Garrett chat about being on purpose with your goals versus simply hoping things work out. They describe the importance of believing in yourself, pushing out negative self-talk, and acknowledging where you’re at right now before getting started with big changes. You’ll also hear about focusing on who you want to be as you write out your own story, sticking to your guiding principles, and how this mentality can help in other important areas of your life.

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Episode Highlights

  • Thresholds and big changes in your life can change the way you see the world
  • Writing a letter to yourself is an amazing exercise to reflect and move forward
  • Garrett shares his own personal example of changing the trajectory of his life’s journey before starting a family
  • He views these threshold moments as a series of new adventures
  • Matt sees them an a chance to manufacture your own luck - think about where you want to be and figure out how to put yourself there
  • It’s up to you to take those actions, but also to have the belief that you can advance
  • Being on purpose with how you want to move forward versus simply hoping it works out
  • Push out the negative self-talk, acknowledge where you’re at right now, and ease into the process
  • Mindset and voices in the back of your head play a huge role
  • Break big goals into smaller steps - this helps build confidence and motivation to go after the next step
  • Writing out your goals gives you a guiding principle to help stay in alignment with them
  • Ask yourself, Who do I want to be?
  • Focusing on the “who” will help create the identity that will get you to the “what”
  • Let go of negativity and look at your life as a roadmap

 

Quotes:

“Thresholds can happen in a lot of different ways. But the install is, That's a moment that allows you to see the world in a different way.”

“It's like wearing a different shade of glasses. And all of a sudden, you're like, Wow, there's colors here that I didn't know existed!

“That goes back to - your activities produce your results… That’s how you create magic.”

“A lot of people go into that very lost and very scared. And sometimes you can just stop and sit down with some paper and start writing out, What do I want this next part of my journey to look like?

“I look at them as a series of small adventures.”

“This is what I would call manufacturing luck.”

“Belief is the most important part of all this.”

“First thing is you need is to acknowledge where you're at right now. I think that's where a lot of people - they get going...they start throwing out these big, big goals...But a lot of times you need to stop and realize where you're at right now.”

“A lot of people don't realize where mindset plays into this, and the self-talk and all the little voices that we have roaming around the back of our head.”

“If you have a letter written like that, when moments come up, that allow crossroads to take place, or forks in the road to take place, you now have a guiding principle to step back and say, Does this fit what I put in line here?

“If you focus on the who, then that also helps you build the identity that will take you to the what.”

“You can't do this journey with a whole bunch of negative crap that you're bringing with you.”

“Stick as much as you can to what your guiding principles were upfront.”

 

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