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Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: It’s hard enough to leave a bad relationship when you’re not seeing eye to eye or you find out you value different things or your partner has cheated on you. It’s even harder leaving when you’re not sure if you’re the problem and you’re questioning if you’re being dramatic and people around you don’t think you should. Dr. Ramani, clinical psychologist, and narcissist expert, points out that in narcissistic relationships everyday isn’t a bad day and that can make it really hard for people in relationship with them to realize they are trapped and even harder to feel validated in leaving. Part of the reason it’s so difficult to thrive in a narcissistic relationship is because there is a splitting of your identity in a way that Dr Ramani describes as “you getting rid of yourself” in exchange for whatever peace you can have. You learn over time how to not anger your partner. You realize that anything good for you sets your partner off and causes arguments and the gaslighting begins to make you believe it’s all your fault. This episode is for the woman that needs hope and a strategy to survive the narcissistic abuse and thrive even if you have to stay a while longer. Your reason to stay or leave is not for anyone’s approval or disapproval You can get your strength and validation elsewhere You can become narcissist resistant and keep your identity Reasons for staying are not to be shamed, your reasons to stay may be valid, but know with eyes wide open why you’re staying and how to navigate the turmoil to come out of this okay. QUOTES: “The vast majority of narcissistic relationships are not violent and it’s important to make that distinction.” “The thing to remember that is unique to narcissistic abuse is that everyday isn’t bad.” “The mistake people make, [...] is they come in and they be themselves. Well if your “self” is at odds with what the narcissist wants, they’re going to shut that down.” “This idea of the narcissistic person as a simple one dimensional cartoon villain is just not real.” “Part of radical acceptance is being okay with them being set off.” “I don’t think we talk enough about how difficult parenting is, and instead we criticize parents all the time or we give them the absolutely most ridiculous advice in the world.” “When you show me something bad that you can do to me, you’ve now shown me what’s in your behavioral repertoire, and the only absolute in psychology is that past behavior predicts future behavior.” Follow Dr. Ramani: Website: http://doctor-ramani.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DoctorRamanDurvasula Twitter: https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani Podcast: http://doctor-ramani.com/podcasts-feat-dr-ramani/ Sponsors: Visit http://www.srimu.com/lisa to unlock 10% off artisanally crafted NOT cheeses made with plant based ingredients for a delicious new take on the cheeses you adore! Go to athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase!  Go to http://aura.com/lisa for a 14 day free trial to see if your personal information has been leaked online. Visit my sponsor Future: https://tryfuture.co/lisa to try your first month for $19 and make 2023 the year you crush your fitness goals. Go to our sponsor Viome https://tryviome.com/lisa to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping - learn if inflammation is causing your issues!