346: "What if my family rejects me?" Part 2 of 3
Live Therapy with Veena:
Part 2 of 3
Last week you heard the first half of the session with Veena, a young woman who was devastated by a medical problem that may make it difficult or impossible to conceive the child she is dreaming of. Today, you will hear the inspiring and dramatic conclusion of her story, along with the feedback comments from the individuals in David and Jill's Tuesday training group who witnessed the live work.
A = Assessment of Resistance
Jill asked if she felt ready to roll up her sleeves and get to work on some aspect of what she’d been telling us, and she was. Jill then asked what she was hoping to get from tonight’s session. If we could offer a “Miracle Cure,” what would that look like?
She said, “I’d feel a lot less guilty and responsible, so I would no longer feel like the problem was my fault. I’d know that I did my best and that I can be okay even if people don’t like me or judge me.
Jill asked the Magic Button question, and she said that she love to see her guilt go all the way to zero, but not her many other negative feelings, like depression, anxiety, inadequacy, self-consciousness, hopelessness, upset, insecurity and self-doubt.
With Positive Reframing in mind, we listed many of the positives in these negative feelings, including:
- Sadness. This feeling shows that I care for people and want to give them the best. It shows that I also care for my own dreams of having a baby. And it shows how much I love my mother.
- Anxiety, worry. This is a warning signal, reminding me to be alert and do my best, and do what the doctors require.
- Guilt. Shows that I’m humble and willing to be accountable and examine what I’ve done and look at my own mistakes.
- Self-Consciousness. Protects me by making me cautious so I don’t just blurt out everything.
- Defectiveness. I see my flaws, and allows me to get closer to others, and to feel happy for the success of others.
- Hopelessness. When I told my husband I felt hopeless, he became SO supportive. Also, I gave myself some space so I could create an action plan.
You can see the goals Veena set for each emotion on her Daily Mood Log if you click HERE.
Veena with her in-laws