085 – A Bad Truth Is Better Than A Good Lie
After the adoptive father she loved so much died, Alison learned her birth father, Tim, was looking for her and she took it as a good sign of things to come. Sadly she found herself disappointed in him, and later in her birth mother, Jean, whom he contacted without telling her. Alison had no idea her birthmother struggled with mental illness, so their contentious relationship was inexplicably challenging. After Alison took legal action to gain access to her adoption records from the agency that refused to turn over her information, she finally laid eyes on the detailed context of her past that meant so much to her, and only her. Read Full TranscriptAlison: https://www.temi.com/editor/t/fZiIy_z6F3qsF3x_bNaT-6ScWWjkn1QQaQnPxnTL_vC4-ru-wbJT7lNAncraWFvJm0ibiGwQBlG5vujE8UNtsyoAL3c?loadFrom=DocumentDeeplinkats=1.67 (00:00:01) I am the one that had no choice in this. Right? You know, like when you realize like, you know, my, my adopted parents had a choice. They choose, they chose to adopt. My birth mother had a choice, even though in some sense she didn’t, but there was still choices made, right? That weren’t my choices. I mean, I’m the only one that, that completely had no choice. So I realized that like, and this in reunion. I can choose who I have relationships with and who I don’t, you know, I, I, you know, so I realized it’s okay. Like I don’t need to make this work with my birth mother. Voices: https://www.temi.com/editor/t/fZiIy_z6F3qsF3x_bNaT-6ScWWjkn1QQaQnPxnTL_vC4-ru-wbJT7lNAncraWFvJm0ibiGwQBlG5vujE8UNtsyoAL3c?loadFrom=DocumentDeeplinkats=35.82 (00:00:35) Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Damon: https://www.temi.com/editor/t/fZiIy_z6F3qsF3x_bNaT-6ScWWjkn1QQaQnPxnTL_vC4-ru-wbJT7lNAncraWFvJm0ibiGwQBlG5vujE8UNtsyoAL3c?loadFrom=DocumentDeeplinkats=47.19 (00:00:47) This is, Who Am I Really? A podcast about adoptees that have located and connected with their biological family members. I’m Damon Davis and on today’s show is Alison. She called me from Massachusetts. After the adoptive father that she loved so much died, Alison learned her birth father was looking for her and she took it as a sign of good things to come. Sadly, she found herself disappointed in him and later in her birth mother whom he had contacted without telling her. However, after Alison took legal action to gain access to her adoption records from the agency who refused to turn over her information, she finally laid eyes on the detailed context of her past that means so much to her and only her. This is Alison’s journey. This is Alison. Alison: https://www.temi.com/editor/t/fZiIy_z6F3qsF3x_bNaT-6ScWWjkn1QQaQnPxnTL_vC4-ru-wbJT7lNAncraWFvJm0ibiGwQBlG5vujE8UNtsyoAL3c?loadFrom=DocumentDeeplinkats=100.81 (00:01:40) I just want to tell you, but I, you know, found your podcast not that long ago. Damon: https://www.temi.com/editor/t/fZiIy_z6F3qsF3x_bNaT-6ScWWjkn1QQaQnPxnTL_vC4-ru-wbJT7lNAncraWFvJm0ibiGwQBlG5vujE8UNtsyoAL3c?loadFrom=DocumentDeeplinkats=105.39 Support this podcast
