083 – An Unbelievable Emotional Roller Coaster For Me
Before becoming an adoptee advocate Rich was searching for his own identity. As a child, his older adopted sister vengefully told him their mom wasn’t his real mother. It made him wonder who the other woman could be. When he was in college, his adoptive parents gave him an envelope of non-identifying information. Many years later they handed him another document that revealed his birth name. Rich found himself resenting their decision to withhold information from him that he clearly wanted. When he found his maternal aunt they discussed his birth mother enough to realize she wasn’t the only sister in the family to have relinquished a son in Denver. Read Full TranscriptRich: https://www.temi.com/editor/t/LFIPnrKGBQ2QDKDiIup3WzAfeaTHeJxix9_tJKQEzQgbUlJqASN0V9_l_dseRfY_uN82w2epcSj3GP1pGTSK9WeRwFI?loadFrom=DocumentDeeplinkats=0.19 (00:00) I started reading her the description of the birth father from my non identifying records and she got really quiet and she said, oh, this changes everything she goes, I know who your birth father was and so once we sorted it all out, we were both in bed for two days because she hadn’t known that her younger sister had done this. Voices: https://www.temi.com/editor/t/LFIPnrKGBQ2QDKDiIup3WzAfeaTHeJxix9_tJKQEzQgbUlJqASN0V9_l_dseRfY_uN82w2epcSj3GP1pGTSK9WeRwFI?loadFrom=DocumentDeeplinkats=35.82 (00:35) Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Damon: https://www.temi.com/editor/t/LFIPnrKGBQ2QDKDiIup3WzAfeaTHeJxix9_tJKQEzQgbUlJqASN0V9_l_dseRfY_uN82w2epcSj3GP1pGTSK9WeRwFI?loadFrom=DocumentDeeplinkats=47.21 (00:47) This is Who Am I Really? A podcast about adoptees that have located and connected with their biological family members. I’m Damon Davis and on today’s show is Rich. He called me from Denver, Colorado where he works in adoptee advocacy, but before he took on that body of work, Rich was searching for his own identity. When he was in college, his adoptive parents gave him an envelope of non identifying information. Then years later he received another document with his birth name. When he found his maternal aunt, they discussed his birth mother enough to realize she wasn’t the only sister in the family to have relinquished a son in Denver. This is Rich’s journey. Rich has an older sister who was adopted, like himself, and a younger sister who was the biological child of his parents. Like many adoptive parents, they didn’t think they could conceive a child until she was born. They were set with their daughter and son they had adopted and there was no plans for any more children. It’s amazing how often that storyline is repeated in adoption. Interestingly, since adoption was such an open topic in their family, at one point their younger sister had a bit of an identity crisis. Rich: https://www.temi.com/editor/t/LFIPnrKGBQ2QDKDiIup3WzAfeaTHeJxix9_tJKQEzQgbUlJqASN0V9_l_dseRfY_uN82w2epcSj3GP1pGTSK9WeRwFI?loadFrom=DocumentDeeplinkats=123.54 (02:03) The funny thing, you know, how... Support this podcast
