248. Losing Trust
Join Jesse and I this week as we discuss the sensitive topic of rebuilding trust with teens after they've broken it. Inspired by a question from an Instagram follower, I share insights on the importance of having conversations before resorting to consequences. I highlight the need to understand our teens' perspectives, adjusting consequences based on their willingness to rebuild trust. Explaining the reasons behind trust issues, such as social media incidents or phone privileges, is crucial to demonstrate genuine concern for their well-being.
I also touch on the significance of addressing privileges as just that - privileges, not rights - and fostering a culture of trust from a young age. The episode delves into the emotional aspects of trust-breaking, emphasizing the need for parents to pause and breathe before reacting. I stress the importance of seeking wisdom from the Holy Spirit, avoiding knee-jerk reactions driven by fear, pride, or selfishness. I also discuss the two-way street of building and maintaining trust, encouraging parents to invest time, keep promises, and set positive examples.
We wrap up by emphasizing the importance of parental introspection, checking our hearts, and seeking guidance from the Lord. I also introduce a free ten-day challenge, "10 Days to a Happier Mom," designed to help parents shift from frustration to a place of calmness and peace, ultimately parenting from a foundation of understanding their immense love from God, so join us in navigating the intricacies of parenting, with its challenges and joys, all rooted in a love-centered approach.
In This Episode
[0:35] - What do you do when your teens break trust?
[1:35] - We recently dealt with our first broken bone in the family!
[3:28] - I discuss a painful arm injury from my childhood that heightened my sensitivity to possible fractures in my children.
[6:18] - During a muddy flag football game, Silas' painful finger injury turned out to be a clean break above the growth plate.
[9:13] - Amidst the challenge of identifying Silas in a sea of similarly dressed boys, Silas embraced a positive attitude after avoiding surgery.
[12:16] - I discuss how I have delved into researching and planning to grow beautiful flowers.
[13:36] - I have been immersed in a book that has deeply resonated with me – Sara Hagerty's The Gift of Limitations.
[16:26] - Reflecting on trust challenges with children prompted deep contemplation after a question on Instagram.
[18:41] - I reflect on an insightful quote that puts into perspective navigating instances of broken trust with my children with wisdom.
[22:32] - Before addressing any anger that I might be feeling with my child, I must first address it with myself.
[25:18] - I argue that engaging in open conversations with our children about trust builds understanding and fosters growth.
[27:10] - Before implementing consequences, engage in conversations to understand your child's perspective and foster communication.
[30:27] - Rebuilding trust is serious; show understanding, sadness, and love, and actively participate in rebuilding efforts mutually.
[32:30] - I encourage listeners to take part in love-centered parenting by checking your motives, seeking wisdom, and relying on God's love.
Links & Resources
Sign up for my 10 Days to a Happier Mom Challenge (it’s FREE!)
Books
The Gift of Limitations: Finding Beauty in Your Boundaries by Sara Hagerty
Social Media
Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group
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