Coping with Failure, and Dealing with Disappointment
One of the most important skills we can develop is the ability to deal with disappointment and cope with failures big and small. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss what it looks like to experience failure not as falling short, but as an opportunity for growth. They explore cultural narratives around "failure," individual variation in sensitivity, and how to manage the pain of failure, adapt expectations, and develop systems of feedback to allow for a greater sense of ease and purpose.
Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:00: What do we mean by failure?
5:55: How loss works in the brain and what makes us sensitive to losing
8:30: Managing expectations of success
10:30: Attributional styles
13:10: How some can handle failure with greater ease than others
22:30: Deconstructing old narratives and failure as an opportunity for learning
28:30: Managing the pain of failure and setting up feedback systems
34:20: An example from Forrest’s experience
38:20: Poor decisions, lack of foresight, losing your nerve
40:30: Willingness to take risks
45:00: Defining our notion of success and failure via process vs. outcome
48:20: Recap
Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.
Have a question for us?
Email: contact@beingwellpodcast.com to submit questions or potential topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes.
Sponsors:
Visit athleticgreens.com/BEINGWELL to take ownership over your health, and pick up the ultimate daily nutritional insurance!
Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!
Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.
Discover your full genetic potential by uploading your existing DNA test results at gemonelink.io. No trial period, no credit card, and no hidden fees!
Connect with the show: