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For most people, the idea of a ‘happy divorce’ is incredibly confusing. How can those words even belong in the same sentence?  It’s possible to love an ex-spouse without being in love with them, and that’s what we need to aim for if we want to successfully co-parent with them.  Still, divorce can be a war zone and there are many landmines we have to get past if we want to be genuinely happily divorced.  The best way to move past the landmines is by agreeing to put our children first, in every decision we make. On this episode, co-founders of Our Happy Divorce, Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond share how to move beyond the war zone and embrace a happier divorce.   There are landmines all over divorce. You can either avoid them or step on them, but you have to keep moving forward. -Ben Heldfond   3 Things You’ll Love About This Episode    Take out the ‘co-’ and just be parentsWhen we choose to have children, we make a vow to protect them and put their best interests at heart. A divorce doesn’t need to change that, our children should always be at the center of our interactions.   Be upfront with new partnersOne of the biggest landmines we deal with in divorce is the prospect of our former spouse starting a new relationship. The best way to ensure our new partners respect our happy divorce dynamic is by being upfront about what we are trying to achieve.   Keep moving forwardIt’s easy to think back to how our former spouses used to be- but we have to acknowledge the changes they have made. Embrace the new person they’ve become and instead of dwelling on the past, commit to moving forward from every landmine we may encounter.