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Has your partner every just stopped talking to you when things weren't going his or her way? Or, when you weren't doing exactly as s/he wanted? And, then, the next things: THE DREADED SILENT TREATMENT! The silent treatment is punishing, punitive, and often the way a person who wants power over you thinks they can control you. Sometimes, though, that other person--or, maybe, you--don't have the skills or confidence to manage conflict in any other way. Why do people use the silent treatment? They want to demonstrate power over you They think you'll give in if they hold out long enough They want to punish you by withholding love or intimacy of any kind They lack skills to communicate about difficult things...and they won't risk trying. They are afraid they'll lose, so they don't start the conversation. Any of those sound familiar? It's not uncommon for people to get scared, and then, get very defensive. That often even escalates into anger. Things can get very touchy! People will react in out-of-proportion ways when they are feeling their self-worth is attacked, or in jeopardy. That's often when they pull of that move: the dread silent treatment! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: You can learn better ways to communicate whether you do the silent treatment, or you're on the receiving end Find out what's driving that silent treatment Find the willingness to listen without judgment or defensiveness What emotionally mature people do when conflict arises I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97. I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW. Talk soon. Rhoberta Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor ForRelationshipHelp.com P.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE. WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUP AWAY FROM FACEBOOK? You can have that, and: access to a Emotional Savvy Circle my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls You can get most of this for the price of one latte a month! ForRelationshipHelp.com/ESC CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Website: TransformingRelationship.com Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds. #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #stress #self-care #emotionaldistress Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.