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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS® with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor 8 STRONG STEPS TO HANDLE BULLIES AT WORK...AND, AT HOME. You feel bullied. You see others being bullied. It's not right! Perhaps, you shy away. You sometimes take a day off to get away from the toxic environment. You are ready to stop this nonsense, and today, I'm going to give you some solid steps, some strong steps, to understand the bully, and know what is in your power to do about it. If this is a workplace bully, you may think that the bully should be management's problem. True, however, management may not be doing anything about it. After all, they don't have to work with this person every day, right? You do. So, you need to do something, too. Bullies may or may not be Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic people I talk about here. It is possible that the bully is just a truly scared person who leads with their anger to avoid appearing weak. There are possibilities to consider. And, I've written a free ebook for you to find out. How To Spot A Hijackal. Get it HERE. A bully is afraid. It sounds strange, and it's true. A bully is afraid that s/he will not be taken seriously, noticed, or made important enough, so they take on the job themselves. They really back themselves into a corner while trying to corner you! In today's episode, I'm talking about what to do when you have to work with--or manage--a bully, person who goes out of his or her way to intimidate others. You cannot have that if you are in management. Productivity suffers and no one wants to come to work. You personally cannot let it just go, either. It will affect your health and well-being. You want to know the steps you can take to feel assertive and confident in the face of a bully. I know, that may not be where you want to step, but it's better than avoiding, cowering, or quitting, right? Notice what you are feeling when you hear those eight strong steps: Do I lose my self-esteem around the bully? Am I just giving it away? That's a possibility. Can I now see that I am letting the bully take away my right to be myself and stand strong? Do I need more skills to stand strong and avoid a clash of wills. Facts are facts. Stick to them. What do I need to do--what self-talk do I need--to do things more positively with the bully? What difference would it make if I listened to the bully to find something I could agree with? Am I willing to work on my issues, and shore up my skills to be happier every day with my willingness to be assertive? If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE. Let's talk soon. I can help.  Ready to talk with Dr. Shaler? One-hour introductory session for only $97 BeAClient.com I hope this empowers you to make positive changes. Talk soon. Rhoberta Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor ForRelationshipHelp.com Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond. CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Website: TransformingRelationship.com Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 #bulliesatwork #difficultpeopleatwork #workplaceconflict #mycoworkerisabully #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #systemicabuse #sexualabuse #physicalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.