026 – I’ve Got A Second Mom And I Can Love Them Both
At 16 years old, Ron decided to satisfy his curiosity about his first family. But his search was challenging. He was born on a South Carolina Air Force Base that had closed, the internet didn’t have the reach that it has now, and AncestryDNA’s connections didn’t help. He recruited the help of a search angel who recognized important information in the search that Ron hadn’t seen before. In the end, his mother was glad to be found, and he got some answers about himself and his family. Check out Ron’s site http://www.findingtruefamily.com (FindingTrueFamily.com) The post http://www.whoamireallypodcast.com/026-ive-got-second-mom-can-love/ (026 – I’ve Got A Second Mom And I Can Love Them Both) appeared first on http://www.whoamireallypodcast.com (Who Am I...Really? Podcast). Ron (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/HfLlDzW3WjL3GW2PaGyYqk9hyuI5UwoCYZXH3kGHPY_Elyagep1aHuvhuPYIYGfvpx9JTiG05CGXGE2mvwsrWorrIOY?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=3.25 (00:03)): I pick up my phone, I start dialing the number and my hands are shaking. I'm bawling like a baby, you know, 42 year old bawling like a baby. I just, I, there was no way I could make it go and I'm not even sure what I was afraid of or why I couldn't do it, but I just could not do it. Voices (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/HfLlDzW3WjL3GW2PaGyYqk9hyuI5UwoCYZXH3kGHPY_Elyagep1aHuvhuPYIYGfvpx9JTiG05CGXGE2mvwsrWorrIOY?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=27.56 (00:27)): Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Damon (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/HfLlDzW3WjL3GW2PaGyYqk9hyuI5UwoCYZXH3kGHPY_Elyagep1aHuvhuPYIYGfvpx9JTiG05CGXGE2mvwsrWorrIOY?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=38.8 (00:38)): This is Who Am I Really, a podcast about adoptees that have located and connected with their biological family members. I'm Damon Davis and on today's show is Ron from South Carolina. He says his reunion journey started in his teens but didn't yield any results until he was in his forties. During that time, he tried a variety of tactics to try to locate someone that he was related to who might have some helpful information about his birth family. In the end, the amazing work of his search angel led him to his birth mother and his relatives in Missouri and North Carolina. Ron was born in 1974 and placed for adoption immediately. His family expanded in 1980 when his parents adopted Ron's sister, whom you'll meet in a later episode. Ron shared that he grew up with the knowledge that he was adopted and had a good life with his family, but he always had that natural curiosity to search for his original family. It was about 16 years old when he began his search. I asked why that age was the time he began the journey. Ron (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/HfLlDzW3WjL3GW2PaGyYqk9hyuI5UwoCYZXH3kGHPY_Elyagep1aHuvhuPYIYGfvpx9JTiG05CGXGE2mvwsrWorrIOY?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=111.99 (01:51)): Well, I was, uh, you know, of course, born in 1974, um, placed for adoption pretty much immediately. Was actually adopted by one family and for whatever reason it didn't work out, so they had to send me back. Um, but I was only eight or nine months old when my adoptive parents and got me. So, you know, obviously I have no memory of the first one. Um, I've known since day one since before I could understand that I was adopted and that, uh, you know, the story I was always told and heard that is relatively true, that my birth mom was a young girl. Uh, 16 years old, couldn't take care of me. So she wanted to place me for adoption. So that a family that could take better care of me could uh, raise me. So like I've always known I was adopted. My parents adopted another child, my sister and I about the same time I reconnected with my birth mom, she found her birth mom. Damon (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/HfLlDzW3WjL3GW2PaGyYqk9hyuI5UwoCYZXH3kGHPY_Elyagep1aHuvhuPYIYGfvpx9JTiG05CGXGE2mvwsrWorrIOY?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=166.93 (02:46)): I asked Ron what kinds of thoughts or expectations he had about his search before Support this podcast
