027 – I Got A Picture Of My Mother’s Sadness Though Other People
As a kid, Rebecca was considered quirky. Unbeknownst to her, that quirkiness was an after effect of fetal alcohol syndrome. She tells the story of learning her birth mother’s lonely and troubled past, and the closure she finally got after she learned of her mother’s death. The post http://www.whoamireallypodcast.com/027-got-picture-mothers-sadness-though-people/ (027 – I Got A Picture Of My Mother’s Sadness Though Other People) appeared first on http://www.whoamireallypodcast.com (Who Am I...Really? Podcast). Rebecca (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/60Om6hfRU-PbCnhCogsqti4gALRy5FI1j1qFL8Gw9-Qcgeh0KJGGCl4fPFbK2ktFGpCkelob3nBwt9t5SDlqtB5KOsM?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=3.03 (00:03)): I went to bed that night and I woke up and I went back to the picture and I'm like, Oh my God. I was like, that's exactly how I looked in high school. Voices (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/60Om6hfRU-PbCnhCogsqti4gALRy5FI1j1qFL8Gw9-Qcgeh0KJGGCl4fPFbK2ktFGpCkelob3nBwt9t5SDlqtB5KOsM?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=16.71 (00:16)): Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Damon (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/60Om6hfRU-PbCnhCogsqti4gALRy5FI1j1qFL8Gw9-Qcgeh0KJGGCl4fPFbK2ktFGpCkelob3nBwt9t5SDlqtB5KOsM?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=28.13 (00:28)): This is Who Am I Really, a podcast about adoptees that have located and connected with their biological family members. I'm Damon Davis and on today's show you'll hear the story of Rebecca. She's one of my people from Columbia, Maryland. She went to a rival high school Centennial, but that's okay. Everyone knows Wilde Lake is the best. Rebecca's parents told her very early that she was adopted and she loved it. As a kid, Rebecca was considered quirky. Unbeknownst to her, that quirkiness was an aftereffect of the alcoholism that plagued her mother's life. She tells her story of learning her birth mother's lonely and troubled past and the closure she finally got after she learned of her mother's death and her quest to find answers about her paternal side of the family. Rebecca was adopted as an infant and she lauds her adoption as a positive experience with her family. But she had challenges with her brother, her parents' biological son. And he admitted his feelings about Rebecca the night before her big day. Rebecca (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/60Om6hfRU-PbCnhCogsqti4gALRy5FI1j1qFL8Gw9-Qcgeh0KJGGCl4fPFbK2ktFGpCkelob3nBwt9t5SDlqtB5KOsM?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=94.65 (01:34)): I was adopted at one month old, so my parents told me, I think when I was five or six, like as young as I could understand and um, they didn't hide it from me and it was.. I mean I always felt like I belonged to them. I never felt different. Like I, I had written that I was quirky, but that turned out to be something totally different. So, um, it was cool. Like I loved it cause I loved the attention. Like my mom would tell the, you know, how they adopted me to her friends when they would go out and I just, it was awesome. And like nobody ever, from what I remember, nobody ever looked at my parents like, Oh poor you, you know, you had to go the adoption route. It was a very positive experience. My brother was biological and he was four years older than me. Damon (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/60Om6hfRU-PbCnhCogsqti4gALRy5FI1j1qFL8Gw9-Qcgeh0KJGGCl4fPFbK2ktFGpCkelob3nBwt9t5SDlqtB5KOsM?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=146.161 (02:26)): He was biological to them? Rebecca (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/60Om6hfRU-PbCnhCogsqti4gALRy5FI1j1qFL8Gw9-Qcgeh0KJGGCl4fPFbK2ktFGpCkelob3nBwt9t5SDlqtB5KOsM?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=148.83 (02:28)): Yeah, yup. So him and I constantly butted heads. I don't know. I think part of that's because my parents, after they had him, they had a daughter and she passed away at a week old due to being a preemie. So, um, that's why they looked into adoption after that. So I think my brother felt a little like I replaced her, which I get. I get it. Damon... Support this podcast
