054 – I Just Want To Sit And Be At Peace
After 52 years in adoption, Mary never had a desire to locate her birth family. Her feeling was they had given her up, so she didn’t really want to share how well she turned out. Still, Mary obtained her non-identifying information in 1999, to satisfy medical history curiosity. On Christmas eve 2017 she emailed her birth mother who replied within hours, and the two were connected. The only thing left was to reach out to her birth father, who didn’t know she was alive. The post 054 – I Just Want To Sit And Be At Peace appeared first on Who Am I...Really? Podcast. Mary (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/u3tkCT1A-xZd3ns2nGXdmURcwjrRo91-fB1cWqF1fQw0XMJz8M3tqAVjiSlXEa1AnfdNmlcwocRrTa7pizC0sNInU_M?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=4.19 (00:04)): I can tell you that the relationship that I'm developing with her is beyond what I ever thought it would be. And it's almost like I just want to sit and be at peace with this before I open up something else. Damon (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/u3tkCT1A-xZd3ns2nGXdmURcwjrRo91-fB1cWqF1fQw0XMJz8M3tqAVjiSlXEa1AnfdNmlcwocRrTa7pizC0sNInU_M?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=28.1 (00:28)): Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? This is who am I really a podcast about adoptees that have located and connected with their biological family members. I'm Damon Davis. And today Mary shares her story. She called me from sunny, South Florida, North Palm beach. Mary says she had one adopted brother growing up and she was interested in the details of his adoption story because her family had nearly no details about her own. At the time we spoke, she had connected with her birth mother and was engaged in a slow methodical process of introducing herself to the woman. Simultaneously her birth mother was encouraging Mary to reach out to her birth father because she heard he was ill. Mary talks about her disenchantment with her adopted and birth names and her hopeful excitement about getting to know her half siblings. One day, this is Mary's journey. Damon (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/u3tkCT1A-xZd3ns2nGXdmURcwjrRo91-fB1cWqF1fQw0XMJz8M3tqAVjiSlXEa1AnfdNmlcwocRrTa7pizC0sNInU_M?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=93.92 (01:33)): Mary was born in Cleveland, Ohio adopted into an idyllic childhood days after her birth. She and her brother also adopted were the children of slightly older parents who got married late. Their mother was a social worker who mostly focused on the needs of unwed mothers. Their father was a NASA engineer and they had a great life as children. Mary (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/u3tkCT1A-xZd3ns2nGXdmURcwjrRo91-fB1cWqF1fQw0XMJz8M3tqAVjiSlXEa1AnfdNmlcwocRrTa7pizC0sNInU_M?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=115.82 (01:55)): My parents gave my brother and me the best life that I could've ever expected. Damon (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/u3tkCT1A-xZd3ns2nGXdmURcwjrRo91-fB1cWqF1fQw0XMJz8M3tqAVjiSlXEa1AnfdNmlcwocRrTa7pizC0sNInU_M?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=120.68 (02:00)): Really. In what ways? Mary (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/u3tkCT1A-xZd3ns2nGXdmURcwjrRo91-fB1cWqF1fQw0XMJz8M3tqAVjiSlXEa1AnfdNmlcwocRrTa7pizC0sNInU_M?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=122.69 (02:02)): I mean, we did all the things, sports and, um, and dance and both my brother and I play instruments. And I just feel like my parents were so committed to sharing their lives, but also, you know, making, making sure that we were, um, well cared for and loved. And my mom had, um, as a social worker, she had a ton of women, friends that were also in social work and, um, they would have these parties and all of those people, although they were so much older than my brother and me, they always invited us to their parties. Mary (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/u3tkCT1A-xZd3ns2nGXdmURcwjrRo91-fB1cWqF1fQw0XMJz8M3tqAVjiSlXEa1AnfdNmlcwocRrTa7pizC0sNInU_M?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=162.47 (02:42)): And you know, it was, it was so nice because I really felt like my parents' friends really cared about us just as much as my parents did. Damon... Support this podcast
