052 – Little Who?
Kandi grew up in a loving Christian home, an adoptee with one older sister who was biologically related to their parents. Kandi found her biological mother living in Gulf Port, Mississippi where she was lucky to spend time with the woman before losing her a few months later. Today, Kandi’s family reflects the structure of her own childhood—-she has 6 biological children, and one adopted daughter, who is actually her biological niece. The post 052 – Little Who? appeared first on Who Am I...Really? Podcast. Kandi (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/9xfYamO-8CQmDKsgAVwYJiSsHvPQIM5qkWl2SyXL0jVOuKdIDFmp0bjieFCB2gpQZasllBL185p34hv7cTmm5-IQQzI?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=3.69 (00:03)): I've never faulted her for putting me up for adoption. Like I always kind of rationalized that it was because she was too young and that's just kinda how I imagined it. You know, there was some circumstance that she loves me, but she wasn't in a position to raise me. And so I just, that's just kinda what I lived on. I never felt like I wasn't wanted to her. Damon (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/9xfYamO-8CQmDKsgAVwYJiSsHvPQIM5qkWl2SyXL0jVOuKdIDFmp0bjieFCB2gpQZasllBL185p34hv7cTmm5-IQQzI?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=47.84 (00:47)): Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I really a podcast about adoptees that have located and connected with their biological family members? Damon (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/9xfYamO-8CQmDKsgAVwYJiSsHvPQIM5qkWl2SyXL0jVOuKdIDFmp0bjieFCB2gpQZasllBL185p34hv7cTmm5-IQQzI?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=57.5 (00:57)): I'm Damon Davis and on today's show is Kandi with a K kandi called me from Laurel Mississippi. She's a mother of seven children with a family composition, similar to her own as a child. One of her kiddos is adopted and the others are biological to herself. Kandi tells the tale of how that adoption came to be after guidance through prayer. Her good fortune to spend time with her birth mother before losing the woman and the forgiveness she holds in her heart for the man who forced her into this world. This is Kandi's journey. Kandi was born in Gulf port on the coast of Mississippi, but her story starts well before her own birth with her adopted mother. Back when she was a child around sixth grade as a part of a church program called girls in action, her mother's church took young girls to a home for unwed mothers. It's not clear to Kandi what the purpose of the trip was for the girls, but she does know it was impactful on her mother. Kandi (https://www.temi.com/editor/t/9xfYamO-8CQmDKsgAVwYJiSsHvPQIM5qkWl2SyXL0jVOuKdIDFmp0bjieFCB2gpQZasllBL185p34hv7cTmm5-IQQzI?loadFrom=SharedLinkats=119.93 (01:59)): And so my mom had gone and while she was visiting and looking around, she saw a baby in the nursery there. And, um, she promised God that when she grew up, she would adopt, she married her high school sweetheart. And they were told it would be very difficult for them to get pregnant, but they, um, tried anyway and finally had not oldest sister and no complications that the doctor was like, you know, you're not going to be able to get pregnant again. And this was just a, a one on one shot thing. And then after several years of not being able to get pregnant, they decided to start looking at adoption. It took about five years for them to finally get their hands on me. So I was only about, I would say, I think I was about 14 days old when I came home and the older sister by that time was 13 years old. And she was actually the first person that got to hold me. So that was really special for her and a lot of people because I had blonde hair and my, my sister had blonde hair. They always assumed that I was hers. But, um, she, she babysat me a lot and she just loved it. Well, this in, by the time, I guess I was about nine or 10 months, maybe even older, my mom found out she was pregnant. And so then she had a little sister that, um, uh, sandwiched between two biological children. Damon... Support this podcast