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Do not take ANYTHING personally! The core of taking things personally is actually selfishness, self-centeredness, thinking it is all about me. Whatever anyone else does, thinks, or says to you has nothing to do with you--it is all about them!  The best teaching on this subject comes from the book, The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, and I use that as the outline for this episode. Show outline: The Four Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz Be impeccable with your word Don't take anything personally Don't make assumptions Always do your best The 2nd Agreement - Don't take anything personally Whatever happens around you or to you, don't take it personally If someone insults you, don't take it personally It is about them, their domestication, their beliefs, their agreements If you take it personally, you agree with it and take the poison as your own and trap yourself in a new agreement What causes you to be trapped is called "Personal Importance" or taking things personally It is the maximum expression of selfishness It is the assumption that everything is about "me" During our "Domestication," education and upbringing we are taught to take everything personally We are taught we have the power to hurt other people's feelings We are taught to believe what others say to and about us Nothing other people do is because of you! It is because of themselves. Everyone lives in their own mind, their own world, their own beliefs/agreements When someone directly insults you, it is not about you, it is about them The things they do, say, and the opinions they have in their minds are according to the agreements they have with themselves and the world Their point of view comes from their programming, their domestication When someone says or does something to you, they are dealing with their own feelings and beliefs -- Don't take it personally. That person, whether intentionally or unintentionally, sent poison to you. If you take it personally, you agree to take the poison as yours, which will probably cause you to spread it to someone else. Their personal garbage becomes your personal garbage It weakens your immune system which makes it easier for you to take other people's poison--it creates a vicious circle of self-destruction If you do not take it personally, you strengthen your immunity to poison Immunity to poison is freedom and the gift of this agreement Everything you feel, do and say is a reflection of your own personal agreements What you say, do, think or feel, and the opinions you have are according the agreements you have made and these opinions have nothing to do with me It is the way you see the world. It is nothing personal to me, because you are dealing with yourself, not with me You create a movie or novel in your mind. You are the writer and producer. You are the main character. Everyone else is secondary. It is your story. The way you see your story is through the agreements you have made with life Your point of view is no-one's truth but yours. When you live without fear, with love for yourself, you are happy and everything in your story reflects that happiness. You reject poison from others and you have no poison within you to spread to others. Do not take ANYTHING personally If people tell you how wonderful you are, do not take it personally It is not about you, it is about them and how they perceive you If you take it personally, you can become addicted to their praise If they stop praising you, you get upset and think they don't love you anymore You know you are wonderful. You don't need others to tell you so. Even if someone commits a violent or hateful act against you, don't take it personally It was not about you. It was about them This is a major key to forgiveness and letting to of the past It was not about you. It was about them.