SFS 011: The Helping Disease – Why Helping Friends, Lovers or Relatives Can Damage Your Relationships (And the Cure!)
Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! When we care about someone and see them struggling or suffering, it's natural to want to help. It usually comes from a good place - we love them and want to ease their suffering. But many times this is a big mistake, and it can actually make the situation worse or damage the relationship. Many people suffer from what I call The Helping Disease (THD): The chronic impulse to help someone in your life who has a problem, is struggling with something, or who lacks some knowledge or skill. Episode highlights: What is The Helping Disease? How THD hurts relationships The two reasons why someone may not want your help What causes THD The cure for THD (no medication required!) The many benefits of eliminating THD Do you have, or know someone with, THD? If so, you'll want to listen to this episode! Today’s Success Challenge If you have The Helping Disease, choose one person you know and practice the skills I went over. Start just with listening when they have a problem and resist trying to help. Really listen and make sure you understand what they’re going through (not necessarily agree with them), and then reflect back to make sure you understood them correctly. Only then should you ask if you can help. If they say "yes," go for it and they will be much more receptive. If they say "no," respect it and let them work it out on their own. Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button] Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying a Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life