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Today, I spot selfishness in two media powerhouses: the long-running reality TV show The Bachelor, and the outspoken digital-media entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk. I was in a supermarket a few months back, and the cover of US Magazine (not a rag I read) caught my eye. On the cover was a photo of The Bachelor, Nick Viall, with a large quote that read: "I've Been So Selfish." I was compelled to read it. What I found is that Mr. Nick was, in fact, selfish, but in the positive way I discuss on this show. Unfortunately, he meant it as an apology. Despite being a superficial reality show, The Bachelor is watched by millions and Viall's apology reflects the wide cultural belief that selfishness is bad and self-sacrifice is good. I defend Viall's actions as being rationally selfish, and discuss why successfully choosing a romantic partner requires absolute selfishness. Gary Vaynerchuk is a force in digital media. His confident, outspoken personality has drawn a massive following, while building two successful companies. In a self-penned article, "Two Secrets to Staying Motivated a Hungry," he names Selfishness as one of the secrets. And to my amazement, most of what he says about selfishness is positive! I also discuss his response to a question about being selfish from his popular Ask Gary Vee show. One of my favorite quotes from Gary V: "Be grateful for the time you have and selfish with the time you have left." Lots of great stuff in today's show, so listen now and enjoy! Today's Success Question Do you ever feel guilty for being selfish, for doing things just for you (e.g., exercising, taking a vacation, getting a massage, breaking up with someone)? If not, great! If so, do you think you deserve to feel guilty for that? Post your response on Twitter @DrSteveOrma Resources Mentioned The Bachelor Article Gary Vaynerchuck Article, "Two Secrets to Staying Motivated a Hungry" Ask Gary Vee show response (question starts at 6:14) Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics, or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Work With Me If you’re interested in therapy, coaching, or consulting, please contact me. Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying a Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life