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I’m going to try to do this in a new format. One that’s more personal and to know me better but to connect with you and your problems. I want to talk about the fear of dying alone. The feeling of never feeling satisfied about who you aren’t with with in life. I knew a class mate back in high school that passed away from a car accident just a year out of graduation. He had a girlfriend or at least a friend very close to him. One could argue he didn’t die ‘alone’ but rather was alone at the time of occurrence. There’s tons of other horrible tragedies that happen to people just like that. Some are with others they love, some with complete strangers, but thing is you never really die alone per se. Let’s look at the reason why  Fear is a necessity in life. It’s the push in our minds to achieve something great out of spite of the consequences if you don’t. It’s what keeps us safe from the dangers in our lives. So the fear of dying alone is essentially a safe prevention mechanism in our minds. We as humans want to be social and connect with others on a biological level. That’s important to know because despite being a loner or having severe social anxiety, you still have some kind of need of having other people in your life. They don’t even need to be people though. Pets are actually quite similar in filling a missing void of companionship. It could very well be easier to have and deal with as they usually don’t talk back and in full mercy of you for their own survival. Survival is what we do every day. It’s not apparently in this day in age because of all civilization works, but needless to say we all have the basic needs to live. That’s a necessity and way to deal with loneliness. Knowing the unknown If we knew what it’s like after death would we still fear it? Depends if you believe in something like Hell, I suppose. There are people who enjoy the mystery of life and those who want to have faith it what will be. It’s all about finding what’s best for you. Having faith that nothing scary or bad will happen is up to you. Wether it’s in religion or from yourself. Maybe it’s reincarnation, maybe you’ll meet everyone in your past again. All that is a possibility so if you need to believe in something it’s there and no one can take that away from you. it’s a great feeling that the end isn’t as bleak as you might make it out to be. Only fear what you can prevent Nothing in this life is permanent. Your dog will pass away, your hair will grey if not fall out, move on from your best high school friend. These things are scary because we don’t always like change. Especially the change we don’t have control of. It’s why in multiple religions there’s a level of ‘letting go’ in their philosophy. As in letting go off the things that are going to inevitably happen so you can deal with the things you do control. Now I highly doubt you’re ‘really’ alone especially with friends, family, and even pets that are readily available. Now if it feels like those people aren’t in your life then you got something on your to-do list then. Wether be working on your appearance or personality if it’s difficult, there is at least 1 person in this world of over 7 billion that would be willing to be your friend. That’s all you really need as for companionship goes. Only fear is fear it’s self as they say.