#133 - The Stages of a Breakup
Going through a breakup can feel like emotional whiplash. One day you’re angry, the next you’re crying, and somehow you still miss the person who hurt you. If you've ever wondered, “How much more healing do I have to do?” — this episode is for you. In this deep dive, I’m walking you through the stages of a breakup so you can understand what’s happening inside you, where you are in your healing, and get the clarity on what you need to do to move forward.
Breakup recovery isn’t linear — it’s layered, emotional, and sometimes messy. But when you understand the stage you’re in, you can take back your power and do the exact work your heart needs. Whether you’re still obsessing over your ex, stuck in grief, or wondering why you feel fine one minute and wrecked the next, this episode will help you normalize your experience and give you a clear roadmap to healing.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Why Breakup Recovery Matters
02:35 – Who I Am and Why I Care (More Than You Know)
05:30 – My Own Breakup Story (And Why It Shaped Everything)
07:58 – The Science Behind Breakup Recovery
17:23 – The 7 Stages of Healing (and Why They're Not Linear)
19:03 – Stage 1: Craving Contact with Your Ex
23:35 – Stage 2: Deciding It's Really Over
38:02 – Stage 3: The Grief Hits (Hard)
41:08 – Stage 4: Working Through Anger, Guilt & Shame
50:04 – Stage 5: How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex
52:03 – Stage 6: Learning from the Pain (Without Blaming Yourself)
57:14 – Stage 7: Trusting Yourself to Love Again
01:05:01 – What Healing Actually Looks Like
01:09:39 – Listener Q&A: Real Breakup Stories & Support
If you’re nodding along as you listen to this—feeling seen in your craving, your grief, your anger, or the ache of missing someone who’s no longer in your life— I created the Heal From Heartbreak Program for you.
It’s a step-by-step healing journey designed to walk you through every single stage of heartbreak recovery. From managing obsessive thoughts to rebuilding your identity and finally learning how to trust again, this program gives you the tools, structure, and support you need to move forward—for real.
You don’t have to stay stuck in the pain. Whether you’re ready to take your first step or you’ve been trying to heal on your own for months (or years), Heal From Heartbreak will help you find your footing and finally feel like you again.
You can start your healing right now. Join the Heal From Heartbreak Program.
Xoxo
P.S. Not sure where you are in your healing journey? Take my free Breakup Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You? to find out which stage of breakup recovery you're in—and get a personalized report to help you move forward.
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