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In this heartfelt episode, Jaime explores one of the most painful and often overlooked parts of trauma: the lingering burden of shame and self-blame. Many survivors — whether from childhood abuse, domestic violence, or other traumatic events — carry the false belief that they were responsible for what happened to them. These thoughts often stem from manipulation by abusers, societal stigma, or the brain’s own attempt to make sense of the pain.

???? Jaime breaks down:

• Why survivors often blame themselves — even when they "know better"

• How fight, flight, and freeze responses are survival, not weakness

• The damaging myths around trauma and responsibility

• Why compassion, not judgment, is the true key to healing

???? The episode closes with a gentle, guided self-compassion meditation — offering listeners a moment of calm, grounding, and the chance to begin speaking to themselves with kindness.

You are not to blame. You are not broken.
You are surviving — and you deserve your own care, just as much as anyone else.

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