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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

3 Empowering Responses to Backstabbers, Rhinos & Hijackals®

Some days, it's very tempting to not go to work because of the people who are there, right? When backstabbing, bullying, malicious gossip, and all the antics of toxic people are present, you have even more incentive to stay home.

Maybe, meetings take place surreptitiously, or are changed without adequate warning so that some people miss them is a way this shows up where you work. And, similar things happen at home when there are difficult, toxic people there, too.

Oh, yes, and Hijackals® and Rhinos like to take credit for things they did little or nothing to achieve, too! Sound familiar? What do you do then? Listen to these empowering strategies for ideas on your next best steps.

Bullies at work? Oh, yeah! They're there, and they wear you down and wear you out. You need these pro-active anti-bullying responses to feel safer around them...and more powerful. Because that's the issue, isn't it? They are there to make you believe they have power over you.

Of course, if they are the boss, they do. Speak up to those over your boss. Or, if that's not possible, you'll be looking for a safer place to work now, right?

When the bully is not the boss, though, you can first of all not tuck your tail between your legs and make yourself as invisible as possible. Yes, I know that might seem appealing--and with outrageous bullies that might be the only sane thing to do--however, when you make eye contact with them in a non-confronting way, you begin to take back your power.

Power games? Yes, and remember the "game" part. If you don't play, there is no game. If you can stay in "neutral" and not give an air of feeling intimated, it's a very good start.

Do you know the right path to speaking up about the bullying at work? Do you know what to say? Get good ideas and strategies in my Season 2, Episode 6 broadcast of 8 Strong Steps to Handle Bullies at Work.

It's common to feel intimidated by a bully at work. No one enjoys being around them! If you can rustle up some nonchalance, a good neutral stance, you'll feel better and be more effective.

You don't want to feel like a wuss, a doormat, or turn yourself into a pretzel around a toxic person at work, right? You want to have effective responses that reduce your stress. Really practice daily these three responses for the next month. It WILL help.

Think that bully might actually have bigger issues? Read my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at Hijackals.com and find out. If s/he is a HIjackal, you need more strategies and insights and they're there for you.

If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.

Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial consultation HERE for only $97.

I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.

Talk soon.

Rhoberta

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com

You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.

Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.

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