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In today’s episode, Steli and Hiten talk about ways you can manage your emotions in a startup. Startups are said to be emotional rollercoasters, but how do we actually deal with these emotions that we go through? Listen as Steli and Hiten explain how you can control your emotions, tips on how to avoid getting angry, and why awareness is the first step to understanding your emotions. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:03 – Today’s topic is about managing your emotions in a startup 00:35 – A startup is an emotional rollercoaster 01:26 – One of the most intense emotions an entrepreneur experiences in a startup is fear 01:45 – Combat fear by not having fear 02:03 – Will Smith says to have fear of fear 02:20 – Fear is irrational: you focus on things you can’t control 02:56 – Deal with fear by thinking through it 04:20 – Play it through all the way 04:53 – Anger is a negative, but empowering emotion 05:18 – Hiten says to not be pissed off and angry 05:52 – Hangry is the number cause of being angry – don’t take too much coffee without food 06:18 – “Most of the time, your emotions are coming from the same place” 06:35 – Dig deep on what triggers your emotions 07:12 – Think through your emotions and identify them, when they are triggered, and how you can recognize them 07:24 – Write down what makes you angry 07:49 – Don’t judge yourself for feeling what you feel 08:00 – Never write an email or text in anger 08:20 – Find a way to calm down 08:53 – Start being self-aware about the emotional state that you’re in 09:48 – Anger builds up before it explodes 10:26 – Find a productive vessel to put your energy into when you’re angry 11:50 – Confusion is a common and less intense emotion 12:10 – Hiten reminds himself to focus on the big, important things to avoid confusion 12:50 – Don’t get caught up n small things that would not matter in the long run 13:42 – Focus and do the things you CAN control 14:56 – Steli shares about an overwhelming experience he had yesterday 15:32 – Identify what is really going on 16:07 – Deal with one thing at a time – prioritize 16:56 – Being present in the moment is what eliminates overwhelm 17:33 – Dealing with cynical emotions 18:15 – “Get out of your head and go for a walk” 18:50 – Meditate or do something that takes your mind off of the issue 19:13 – Talk to people that make you happy 20:31 – Deal with other people’s emotions the same way you deal with yours 21:36 – Emotional management always starts with awareness 21:55 – We want to hear your opinion on this topic! Email Steli or Hiten 3 Key Points: Deal with your emotions by thinking through it, not by reacting to it. Analyze where you feel triggered and find out why you feel that way – sometimes the cause comes from childhood emotions and memories. Deal with other people’s emotions the way you deal with yours. Steli Efti: Hey everybody, this is Steli Efti. Hiten Shah: And this is Hiten Shah, and today on the startup chat, we're gonna talk about  how to manage your emotions in a startup. Steli Efti: Yeah, we all know that the rollercoaster example has been used many, many times. The  emotional rollercoaster of starting a startup. It's a funny image and it's very truthful for  those that hear it. It does mimic the highs and lows and the intensities of  a startup from an emotional point of view, but it's very rarely that we talk  about how to deal with that. And how to manage your own emotions. So I  thought that it would be a fun episode for us to just pick a bunch  of challenging emotions that you're probably gonna have to face and states of mind that  you're gonna have to face as you'r...