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How irrational fears and fear of loss lead to a negative self-perception that causes us to create and experience exactly what we fear in life, instead of what we want.   In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a gorgeous European woman who has let her fears get the best of her and cause her to act needy, unworthy and in a way that is demeaning to herself and what she has to offer a man. Even though she is beautiful, successful, in amazing shape and driven, her limiting beliefs that she has about herself are causing her to act in ways that repel what she wants, by agreeing to be friends only in hopes that her ex boyfriend will want her back. Meanwhile he has a lot of female friends and has been dating another woman who treats him poorly. After another coach told her that being friends only was a viable way to get her ex back, a year and a half later, she is getting nowhere. She asks my opinion if it’s possible to get him back and how she should change her approach. This email is a great illustration of the importance of being aware of your self-perception, cultivating a healthy empowering belief system and negotiating from a superior position of leverage to get what and whom you want in life.