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The lover of your lover, the partner of your partner, your boo's other boo. Sza said it best in her hit, The Weekend - "you take Wednesday, Thursday//then just send him my way//think I got it covered for the weekend"... And we can't get over how lovely it is to write a song to your metamour, it is literally everything. You don't have to love that your person loves someone else, but you do have to act like you have sense, and treat everybody with respect. The biggest gift poly people can give themselves is working on their own jealousy, and allowing each of their partners a sense of safety in connecting with other people. The feelings that come up when your main squeeze starts squeezing around, have so much more to do with you than with them, or anyone else. Jessamyn and Ashe discuss how continually understanding yourself in the context of your constellation --especially because you cannot choose everyone who shows up-- is what is hardest and most important to do. If you're lucky like us, sometimes putting your foot in your mouth is the best way to STFU. And then you get to have a funny story to tell years later on your podcast.  Look at this episode art! Did you know that our very own hometown hero Janie Leopard drew it? She is so rad, we can't even say... She is @janieleopard on Instagram. Do yourself a sweet thing and check her out for a minute. I bet she would love it if you said hey! Listen to our theme song. What a theme song!! It is by our good friends called Fruit Snack and we love the melody and we love the lyrics and we love that it is in our show. On Instagram, they go by @fruitsnackNC. Check them out and if you are around these parts of the world, head to a live show! We would love to dance with you in the front row. We mention someplace in this episode (maybe silently or in our heads) The Underbelly Yoga which is an amazing resource for building an at-home yoga practice. ***In response to Covid-19 and Quarantine, UB is offering a 14-day free trial. If you have been like Ashe and complained that "self-care has to basically fall in my lap before I will try it", put your phone in your lap. You're welcome. Find Jessamyn @mynameisjessamyn and find Ashe creeping @ashedngrphoenixBe well y'all. There is so much beauty amongst all this sickness and anxiety. Tell us what you're finding @dearjessamyn**Stick around after the credits to hear a little bit about why we think it is important that we smoke weed on the show. Think of it as a micro episode, and hit us up if you wanna hear more stuff like that.